Podcast

The Real Reason Men Don't Open Up

Most men don't stay quiet because nobody told them to open up. They stay quiet because they tried it once and it cost them something.

Peter sits down with Katherine, a therapist who specialises in relationships, to talk about what actually holds two people together. What both partners have to be willing to do, the gap between what you mean and what you actually say, why we hang on to pain that feels familiar, where boundaries fit in, and why therapy is almost never what men picture it to be.

Chapters

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1. 0:00Meet Katherine
2. 3:06It only works if both of you are willing
3. 5:58What all of us needed as kids
4. 8:52Knowing someone's there when it falls apart
5. 17:28One failure after another
6. 20:23Why you lose your train of thought mid-argument
7. 26:06The gap between what you mean and what you say
8. 34:41The nanny, the maths, and the guilt
9. 37:48Pausing long enough to remember why you're here
10. 40:35When being vulnerable gets used against you
11. 53:34Boundaries and discipline
12. 56:02Therapy isn't what you think it is